Extraordinary Listening implies being aware of and able to adapt the attitude through which you construct meaning from a given communication. By changing how you listen, you could create very different experiences out of the same communication. Much as two different people walk away from the same situation with very different interpretations and therefore very different meanings or internal descriptions, thereby creating very different experiences. This implies if you can listen with the intention to do so, you can consciously create for yourself, a very different life. Without that awareness and intention instead, as we most often do, we keep unconsciously repeating our habitual meaning making, keeping us running in the same loops of thought, with little option for creativity.
Let me share with you a joke that my father told.
He had a few that I liked, but this was always my favorite, though I suspect I found it funny for reasons different than his. (btw this is a joke from the 1920s)
A man very properly dressed walks very quickly out of the railroad station. He looks around and notices a kid leaning against the wall. He approaches the kid and he says very briskly
“Young man where’s the post office?”
The kid hands in his pocket moves his head very slightly in the direction and mumbles under his breath, ” ’s that way”
The businessman, clearly somewhat irritated, says,
“Young man if you can act any lazier I’ll give you $.50” (back then $.50 bought what $50 buys today)
The kid mumbles with his equal absence of enthusiasm,
“Put it in my pocket!”
Best wishes for the meaning you create in the new year!