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Don’t get mad. Don’t EVEN get even. Get What You Want!

Part I

You know the saying, ‘don’t get mad, get even’? IS that right? In that temperament how conscious are you? Will causing pain to another fulfill your life or simply increase the cycle of anger, violence and hatred? Can you ‘lose your temper’, and act strategically? Or are you a victim of reactivity, based on responses programmed into our genetics eons ago, one chemical stimulating other chemicals, stimulating feelings, impelling one to take actions without thinking things through?

If you’ve lost your temper, aren’t you directed by vitriol more than intellect?

With some levity I like to say vitriol seems to be the drug most abused in our society. People love it because the rush feels powerful. The Chinese recognized anger could produce the force to bite through. Yet, I would ask you, bite through to what, reacting or intense focus? Again, is the course of action you’re on, conscious strategy? Or do you find yourself reacting without thought, primarily because it satisfies the chemical directive?

Don’t get mad. Don’t EVEN get even. Get What You Want!

The sense of power, satisfaction, release, relief of your own internal chemistry can be seemingly achieved by projecting it out on others, but will it create the life that you’d like to live? Will it create the world you’d like to live in? Projecting our pain on hurting someone, might feel better at the moment, but it still uses the energy to negative outcome. Should you, would you rather focus your limited energy, time and attention on hurting someone for past deeds, or invest it in creating something that fulfills your life?

The rush or release of electro-biochemical energy at those moments, when we perceive ourselves to be under pressure, is biological. It’s natural. It is life. What shapes our destiny is how we make meaning at those moments, how we relate to life’s energy.

The directive, “Don’t get angry”, implies not being victim to the energy of an emotional rush. I fear, ‘don’t get angry’, is commonly misunderstood to mean resisting feeling what we feel. An attitude of resistance, stopping the energy, puts us in opposition to our life force and subsequently everything else. Let me suggest, a more intelligent path would be to use the energy to our benefit.

Learning to harmonize with the energy as an ally, work with it, use it positively, means instead of depleting resources in resistance, fighting with the world and ourselves, we can focus on creating a world or attitude we would like to live in.

Through harmony in music, the overtone series is enhanced. In life, harmony means, the energy, included rather than resisted, becomes a source of power. Then it creates possibilities, options, new understanding, vision.

Don’t get mad. Don’t EVEN get even. Get What You Want!

The ability to stay in touch with the life force, that activates you, and attune your temperament to utilize it in creating the life you want, produces the greatest leverage available to an individual. Everything else is downstream from that. Why waste your precious limited resources and drain your life force into creating bad for others, with the reciprocating echoes it creates? Instead wouldn’t you rather spend your vitality, your power, creating good for yourself, your family, your tribe, your community, your world?

Don’t get mad. Don’t EVEN get even. Get What You Want!


Life runs on a continuum somewhere between the call of wonder, a conscious exploration into the vastness of the unknown and an unconscious habituated defense against the disturbance of eternal change. As those who do not learn the lessons of the past are doomed to repeat them, creative learning is of the highest value.

Creativity would increase if it were the focus of training. The ability to manifest creativity, spontaneous generation, divine creation, is a skill that can be developed. If we do it, if we practice it, we get better and faster at it.

The Thalamic Discourses explores: ‘Creating Pathways of Thought’ that generate innovative solutions to the problems and challenges in every aspect of daily life and spiritual development and contemplates a way of perceiving, describing and developing, thought and creativity.


Responsibility: The Individual’s or the System’s?

Is it the individual or the system whether a country, a company, a team or a family?

 This from a financial advisor:


When More Than Half Have Less than $1,000

That issue is a lack of income (call it income inequality), highlighted by a new survey showing that the majority of Americans are essentially “broke.”

Click here to read it on our website.

The national survey, conducted by website MagnifyMoney, found that:

After spending money on holiday gifts, a majority of Americans are “broke.” 56.3% of people surveyed have less than $1,000 combined in their checking and savings account.



The theme was people are irresponsible and they need to change. Then to quote one counter response, ‘When 53% of the people are broke, the problem isn’t with individuals. There’s a problem with the system. As Hamlet once said, “Something’s rotten in Denmark.”


I’m guessing most would say communism is a failed system I wonder do you see capitalism as so. I say communism trashes the individual, and capitalism trashes the commons. OR as someone once said, “you’re just as half assed, whichever cheek you’ve got left.” I don’t want men in charge or women in charge. I want a creative dialogue that takes the best of both mind-sets

And yes the first step is in changing thinking but not to adapt to a system that doesn’t really work, but to design a system that does.


The advisor then says, “The solution to an individual’s problems must come from the individual. If that suggests a “cult of individualism,” then perhaps that cult is on to something.”

Yes and no! Too simplistic to say it nicely. Let me say it again,  You’re just as half-assed whichever cheek you have left. Let me put this in perspective,

Do we extrapolate from this?

We should never have fought the Germans – we should have let those irresponsible individuals in prison camps and those individual countries that fell to the Nazis solve their problems as individuals.

When the mafia extorts someone for protection is it really an individual problem?

And if you don’t see the problem with financial institutions, that in an effective prospering system, should be the essence of integrity, as policy – pushing people to buy when they’re selling short, for their personal gain at everyone else’s expense, you probably didn’t get this far.

It is documented, those people stole billions and caused society far larger problems, – probably putting what we call criminals too shame and leaving everyone who works for a living with less. And it goes on while those responsible for the fraud demonize effective regulation of that system; that’s larger than an individual problem!

When too many people work two jobs and can’t make enough while some make billions manipulating financials as mentioned above; It’s not exactly an individual problem.

When the system or society is out of sorts we need to work together to make it better. Success comes from both individual achievement and working together. That’s how a team wins or a society.

About our problems trying to live together, would those who blame gov’t, as if it were some entity out there, and ‘THE PROBLEM’ really like to live without one?

To quote our old friend, “It’s fuzzy math!”

Are people who want to put all the blame on gov’t advocating anarchy?

If not let’s think together not against. If we worked together, meaning disagreed constructively, to look for better ideas of how to share the planet, we might do better.

But I could be wrong maybe class (race, religious, ideological) war is the answer

IMHO the vitriol – addicted as we are to it, is way more the problem than the solution.


Maybe more importantly what is seemingly lost in this conversation is what do we owe to future generations? Or do we deplete the planets resources completely for individual profit until the world is a mad max scenario and then blame those who remain for their lack of initiative?

Something needs to change but let’s not jump to the simple lynch mob answers (left or right) attractive as they may be at moments. Let’s have a trial that truly seeks a greater truth. Lets continue talking until were all wiser. We need both our responsibility as individuals and to our society or I fear we’re headed to ‘hell in a hand basket’.


Just raising questions. My time is almost up on this beautiful wondrous and awesome planet. I sincerely wish you all the very best future.


And would love to hear what you think!

Part III: Neural Energy and a Flexible Business Model

Whether your business is a commercial enterprise or fulfilling your bestowed mission in a more personal quest, where does the power come from that allows us to create intelligent solutions?

Let us change metaphors from voltage to dollars. Say it takes five bucks for some gas to run our car for the next little while or say five hundred if we include the insurance. It’s going to cost several thousand to buy a used car and at least fifteen or twenty k to buy a new car. But it could take fifty million to design and build something as yet un-invented. Connecting thoughts into new ideas requires energy. Creating thoughts that do not exist takes considerably more.

If we only have five bucks worth of energy we will end up running the old pattern. For several thousand we can try something we know but don’t use often. For 20 k we can learn a new idea or technique from someone who knows it. How much time and energy would it take to create a new idea or technique? What is the difference between being taught a set solution versus designing or innovating a new one for the exact situation that needs solving?

You get good at what you practice. We develop creativity just like we develop any skill, through study and practice. The practice must be designed to develop a unified field of awareness. If you learn, memorize and perfect a set move your ability to perform that move increases. If you study how to create moves then that ability increases. It takes intention, training and practice to make Whole Being Awareness a functional ability rather than a distant possibility or a random occurrence.

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Part II: Neural Energy: The Cost of Creativity / The Voltage Model

If you have two electrical poles and a copper wire running between them, the smallest charge in one pole will jump to the other one easily. To connect synapse that have a connection, where there is already a ‘wire’ or a pathway, one-volt might make that connection. In our model, say the voltage necessary to connect one synapse with another is one volt.

An electrical spark can jump between poles without an established connection. The quantity of energy required however is infinitely greater. To learn how to do something new, or to create a new pathway connecting synapse where no pathway exists takes infinitely greater energy.

To create a connection between two that do not have a pathway, it would take x volts, say a hundred. In other words, to create a new pathway requires a build up of a much higher charge of energy before the spark will jump.

If we want to create new pathways, we must have free energy to work with. If the voltage available to connect one synapse with another is one volt, by default, that limited amount of energy could only take a path that is already established. Meaning in a situation where only one volt of free energy is available, only a known answer can be accessed. Even if that technique doesn’t work, even if something different is needed, without more free energy new possibilities cannot be enabled or created.

If we only have one volt of free energy we are going to be stuck in what we know. We won’t have enough free energy be able to make new synaptic connections or to create new techniques and solutions. Without free energy we default down a known path, even if that path doesn’t go exactly where we want or make our business model successful.

Next Generation Business Model – Part I

I like to say, “Everyone thinks what they think is right;

if they didn’t, they’d just think something else.”

The operating system on a computer is fundamental to how software functions. It tells your computer what to do with data. The key codes do the same at a more fundamental level.

Your business model is much like the operating system on a computer It sets up how you structure every aspect of  your personal functioning and the functioning of your organization. In business the key codes are your beliefs about what business is and how it works.

Together these beliefs and assumptions tell you and your company how to make meaning of input. Once written you function according to the output of your data processing. In turn your strategy forms on those thoughts or meaning you make from the data points.

Would you run your computer with the first operating system that was written? Probably not, but if you don’t have the resources to buy a new one you might be stuck with out of date data processing. Most of us only see the output, what we think, a decision, business or personal, relational, or global.

But what is required to create new software or new thought? How can you grow beyond the read only phase of data processing that is so common with human thought and belief systems?.

The resource that allows you to develop new programs is what I call neural energy. It can be developed through awareness and what Albert Korzybski termed the thalamic pause. For its application to creating new ways of thinking see,

Or for a simple introduction to the idea see the earlier posting, Create your own Star Map.

Can you find new ways to understand success? That simple question if applied properly, that might be enough to change the world entirely.

Neural energy, creativity in business and re-defining success – coming soon.

Neural Energy and Yogananda’s Kriya Yoga

Over-stimulation in this modern world has increased exponentially faster than our ability to process it has developed. I repeat from an earlier post, followed by a beautiful quote from Paramahansa Yoganada founder of the Self Realization Fellowship.

“When we are under pressure an autonomic response causes a tensing of the muscles. We may feel it as a pain in the neck, tight shoulders or in the other extremities of the body, but it emanates from the spine or, in finer dimensions of sensing, the central core of the being.

This tension in the muscles around the spine forces the cerebral spinal fluid up into the cranium putting pressure on the physical brain, impeding the synaptic process, thought and creativity. In common parlance you might hear people under pressure say, “Just give me a minute I need some space.”

This from the film “Awake, the life of Yogananda’ . . .

“The spine and  the brain are the altars of God.

That’s where the electricity of God flows down into the nervous system into the world. The searchlights of your senses are turned outward.  But when you will reverse the searchlights through kriya yoga and be concentrated in the spine you will be hold the maker.”

“Charge the body with the life current from universe. Energy distributed evenly in the body is what keeps the diseases from settling.”

Paramahansa Yogananda
. . . followed by this comment, “that’s what self-realization teaches the technique of meditation, recharging the body battery with cosmic energy. For it is not a creed or dogma, but a science of soul and spirit, how the soul descended from the cosmic consciousness into the earth and the body and the senses is the purpose of this work

Thought it really resonated with this work I’ve been developing, ‘here’s a simple practice that can be done in a few seconds or as long as you care to take’.

Briefly tightening the muscles around the spine and then relaxing the muscles closer and closer to the spine, allowing the spinal fluid to release back into the spine creates space between the vertebrae, actually takes the pressure off the cranium allowing much more effective neural activity and producing a more spacious feeling in the being. Perhaps the most important aspect of the exercise is receiving the energy that’s released.


Do you know or remember the Aesop’s fable about the lion and the mouse? If you don’t, may I suggest you find and read it? As individuals and a society we must understand how power works, to use power effectively. Otherwise thinking you’re using it, you end up its victim and, or, victimizing everyone within your sphere of influence.

I don’t know how many business teams I’ve worked with where the person in power thought everything was fine and the majority of the team thought there were serious dysfunctions.

When I’ve worked in family systems I see a similar dynamic whoever has the power seems to have a harder time listening to what everyone else has to say, as if power was knowledge or omnipotence. Seems we get very confused about that distinction, to the detriment of everyone in the system and the society at large.

What if the missionaries had been as interested in what the other cultures knew, as they were in teaching what they thought was right? What if they had been as interested in learning, as they were certain of their ideas? It may be to cover over the hidden fear that our beliefs are not quite right, which produces that kind of dogmatic treatment of others, often in the form of violence. What if they been as open to wondering and questioning, as they were dogmatic and imposing? How the world might be different?

Really who wants an orchestra of all the same instrument. It’s more than okay that we differ, like an orchestra plays different parts on different instruments, together. Picture a world where people with different beliefs or political views tried to understand why someone else might feel the way they do, instead of either being threatened or denigrating another rather than truly hearing their thoughts.

Please, think about it for a minute. Do you really believe that everyone who holds a different political view or different religious belief is stupid? Do you not think that there are brilliant people among the most varied systems of thought, including ones you are sure are as wrong as they are that your beliefs are wrong?

Intelligence alone does not guarantee truth. Truth thrives in a spirit of open-mindedness, a willingness to listen, a willingness to learn!

When one individual, reactively starts to denigrate another individual, instead of trying to understand the problem and solve it, that is the definition of sin. When we value our beliefs over hearing the truth, isn’t that the road to hell?

Think about the difference between a team with a boss who is closed and dogmatic, versus a team were everyone’s input is considered in an open mindset. Maybe we can’t say which one will produce the best company, the best family, the best culture, the best society and the best world, but I would guess I could guess which one you would rather live in. And for myself, I know for certain.